Why is it that many younger people out there get weirded out when it comes to sexual intimacy between seniors? The reality is that there is no age limit on sexuality or sexual activity. Humans are social creatures with a natural need for intimacy.
Even though most seniors may not feel the urge to “jump on it” as they go through normal physiological changes, there’s quite a lot of data out there to support the claim that the majority of men and women between 50 and 80 years of age are still keen on sex, so we should let go of the idea that older people don’t engage in sexual activities.
In fact, most of the time, if we need advice in a certain aspect of our lives that we’re not well versed in, we turn to people with more experience in that specific area—people who have “done it” before. This article by MIC compiles the sex advice of twelve famous older women who have years more experience than we do. To learn from their words of wisdom, keep reading.
God gave us the ability to do it – so let’s do it
“I was always very open-minded about sex, and I’m glad that I still am… It was never dirty to me. After all, God gave us the equipment and the opportunity. There’s the old saying, ‘If God had meant for us to fly, he’d have given us wings.’ Well, look at what he did give us,” Dolly Parton, 69.
“The principal concern for most women is not having an orgasm. But a woman has to take responsibility for her own orgasms. It’s up to the man to not be offended when she tells him what she needs.” Dr. Ruth Westheimer, 86.
Seek out what turns you on
“I like sexy stuff. I like looking at sexy photos. I loved Madonna’s sex book, and I love Gaga. To be honest, I rather like watching pole dancing,” Dame Helen Mirren, 69.
Sexiness is about how you feel, not how you look
“I think the quality of sexiness comes from within. It is something that is in you, or it isn’t, and it really doesn’t have much to do with breasts or thighs or the pout of your lips,” Sophia Loren, 80.
The best partner is someone who makes you feel sexy
“I like being independent. I like being his girlfriend. I like that notion. I think it’s sexy,” Goldie Hawn, 69.
Some of the best sex requires a plan
“One thing about aging is that spontaneity kind of goes out the window and you have to plan. Which can be exciting, but you have to decide: How long from now am I going to perform? And then it depends on what kind of pill you take,” Jane Fonda, 77.
You’re in charge of your sexual desire
“Does desire melt away with age? I’m waiting for that day to come. Sexual desire is like aging – a lot of it is [in your head],” Betty White, 93.
Don’t forget about hygiene
“Always take a bath before and after… and don’t forget to brush your teeth,” Martha Stewart, 73.
Talking about sex makes a major difference
“I blame my mother for my poor sex life. All she told me was, ‘The man goes on top and the woman goes underneath’. For three years my husband and I slept in bunk beds,” Joan Rivers, 1933 – 2014.
A little self-love? Yes, please!
“Self-love? You know what [my vibrator] is called? A selfie!” Barbara Walters, 85.
A healthy sex life means a healthy relationship
[On the three most important things in her relationship:] “Sex, sex, sex,” Joan Collins, 81.
Sex is about being happy
“Everything that truly makes us happy is quite simple: love, sex, and food!” Meryl Streep, 65.